Sometimes we need to feel the pain. Feel it to the core of our being, let it take us to the very depths of our soul

Find a way to sink into the pain

Just like a wave on the lake

Let it possess you, wash over you wash through you

Because you have loved much, the pain will be much

Feel it.  Know it. Don’t hide from it.

This is the pain of my losing, of my loss

This is my pain- a special pain

The pain of losing my – my child my husband, my wife, my brother, my sister, my parent

It is all pain rolled into one enormous crushing annihilating pain

Go with it to the depths of your being —ride with it

Let the pain embrace you, kiss you, fill you up and then let it go again.

It cannot consume you.

Accept the gift it brings you and say thank you

It cannot break you

Let it possess you , wash over you, wash through you.

Let it bring you to the calm place that is left when a storm passes by, the quiet peaceful place.

Here Now

Listen to the sounds around you.

Look at the colors, name them one by one.

Feel the place where you sit.

Reach out your hand and feel what is there right beside you.

Listen to the thump thump thump of your own heart  beating beating beating  steady sure

Breathe in. Breathe out. In Out In Out

Let the wave of pain wash over you and feel it being  followed by a wave of love.

Love that is never lost , never forgotten

Let the love possess you, wash over you and through you. Let the love fill you up.

Let the pain be transformed. The enormous pain is enormous love.

Such great pain, such great love.